Malcolm Gladwell is the best. He has an insatiable curiosity which drives him to explore and examine everything. He finds something that is a little bit interesting and he dives into it to find the reasoning behind it.
His latest book is no different. He is exploring how we communicate with the people around us. He thinks that they way we have been programed to deal with strangers has led us down a dangerous path. And after his examination, I’m inclined to say he is not wrong. He uses famous examples of miscommunications to explore his ideas.
The most striking takeaway for me is the idea of defaulting to the truth. That we instinctually believe that people are going to behave as we do in a situation. This is when things can begin to go sideways. I found it to be startling simple idea that had a broad application to so many situations.
Malcolm Gladwell books are always a good read. He helps to stimulate my brain to look at things differently and to examine the world around me. I would also recommend listening to his podcast series Revisionist History. It is a one hour dive into Gladwell’s research interests.
Who has read Talking to Strangers? What did you think? What is your favorite Malcolm Gladwell book?
When Breathe Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi was a beautiful book. I read it on a sunny day over the summer because I knew it was a sad story. How could it not be? A doctor diagnosed with cancer dying just as his child was born? I did not expect it to be so engrossing. I read the book in one sitting. One day would be more accurate. I broke it up by pausing to make myself some lunch.
The book is a reflection on life and death. Paul was a magnificent writer. His thoughts flowed well and had an ability to articulate his thoughts succinctly and clearly. It’s fascinating to me that Paul wrote this book in the last year of his life. To be able to examine your life and the future that will happen without you in such a thoughtful way is a gift. The world lost not only a promising doctor but an amazing author.
His wife, Lucy, writes the epilogue and that was when the tears started to come. It was hard to read it but it was beautiful. I heard a lot about the book but didn’t want to read something about someone who was dying. It seemed too sad a story but Paul didn’t allow it to be sad. It was thought provoking that made me think about my own mortality.
If you can’t tell, I absolutely loved this book. I highly recommend reading it if you get the chance. Everyone can take something away from this book. Who has read this book? What did you think about it?
Before We Were Yours by Lisa Wingate was a gripping historical fiction novel about the Tennessee Children’s Home Society. The organization would abduct children from poor family’s and then have the children adopted by wealthy or famous families. They would charge families huge sums of money to adopt children who were ‘given up’ by families who could not care for them. They would create a fake paper trail or trick parents.
The book is fictional story that follows a family of four children who are abducted by the organization when their parents leave them to go to the hospital to have a child. One child is adopted out immediately. The other three struggle to survive. the story jumps to present day where a woman is discovering her own families ties to The Tennessee Children’s Home Society. While the story is fiction, all stories are based on things that have been documented to have happened to children in the home and the lasting effects after they left.
The book was very engaging. It was very interesting to read the fictionalized account and then research what actually happened. It made me think about how we have repeated this scenario again. The children of immigrants who have been deported are being adopted out because the government didn’t keep good enough records to reunite families. Instead of an organization being the bad actor, it’s now the government. It’s actually horrifying that this is happening again.
As fate would have it, as I was voting on my Goodreads best books – Before and After is up for the best history book. It is an actual research book that tells the stories of real victims of the Tennessee Children’s Society Home.
Who has read this book? I loved talking about it with my book club. I’d recommend adding this to your book club list. It’s a great discussion book and has a lot different topics for the group to examine.
I was cruising through books this past month! I also continue to be a terrible library patron. I only kept one of the four books for less than 14 days. To make matters, worse I also held onto them even longer because I needed to photograph the books and write the reviews.
October 2019 Books:
- The Dutch House by Ann Patchett
- Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb
- Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell
- The Only Plane in the Sky by Garrett M. Graff
- Before We Were Yours by Lisa Wingate
My favorite book was The Only Plane in the Sky. I heard a lot of buzz about You Should Talk to Someone and I did like it but it didn’t knock my socks off. It was good but I don’t understand the hype around it. It also left me with a lot of questions about sharing these sessions. And lastly, I was horror read Before We Were Yours. I cannot wait to discuss this with my book club next week.
What was your favorite book you read in October? Share in the comments below!
I’m not going to lie, I love a good parable. One of my favorite books is The Alchemist. I’ve sent the book to many a friend who was on their own person journey. Upon reflection, I don’t remember the last parable I’ve read. It’s funny that’s I’ve read two this year.
My love of parables led me to a TERRIBLE one earlier this year. It was a story about a woman, written by a man, who was spending her life away on lattes. Spoiler alert: the lattes are not the reason women are financially behind. It’s the males like the moron who wrote the book who make it difficult for women to get ahead.
Which brings us to the delightful collection of stories by Cecelia Ahern. Roar is the collection of parables you didn’t know you needed to read. Ahern writes short stories about women who have been smothered in one way or another and their quest to break through.
Ahern tells thirty unique stories that fit seamlessly together or could stand on their own. At 273 pages, it’s the length of a typical novel but you feel like you are getting so much more because of the diversity of the stories. A couple of my favorites were “The Women Who Thought the Grass Was Greener on the Other Side” and “The Woman Who Wore Pink”. This will be the new book I will be mailing my friends.
September swung between freezing in the morning to sweltering in the afternoon. It didn’t’ really matter how you dressed but you would have dressed incorrectly. With that being said, I was able to take full advantage of those sweltering afternoons and spent a significant amount of time reading in the park.
The books I read in September were:
- Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens
- The Other Americans by Lalia Lalami
- Roar by Cecelia Ahern
I’m lucky that I was able to get ahead over the summer because otherwise I’d be in some big trouble trying to hit my 50 books goal. As I write this, I’m at 39 books for the year.
Is anyone really behind or really ahead on their reading goals for 2019? Does anyone have any tricks for staying on top of it?
Per usual, I’m late to the party. I only picked up Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens because it was the Albany Book Club’s October pick.
The novel follows Kya as she navigates life in the swamp. The book opens with five year old Kya watching her mother walk out of the house never to be heard from again and follows her through young adulthood.
Owens tells a beautiful story of isolation and survival in the desolate North Carolina marshlands. She lives outside the world but yearns to be part of it. Against all odds, Kya is able to succeed and survive in her own way.
The reader wants to feel bad for Kya but make no mistake- Kya is a survivor and this story is a victory lap and an ode to the strength of women.
Who has read “Where the Crawdads Sing?” What did you think of the book?
I have been consistent in keeping up with my reading goal this year. Some people say that goals are silly but for me it keeps me accountable and reading at night. It’s really easy for me to go down an Instagram rabbit hole at night.
Not important to this conversation. However, what is important is that I didn’t finish a lot of books in August! I did, however, go and hear Candace Bushnell speak. And let me tell you, she is phenomnal.
Onto the book dump!
1) Is There Still Sex in the City? By Candace Bushnell.
2) The Good Girl By Mary Kubica
If I had to pick it favorite it is Candace Bushnell hands down. Kubica was a book club pick. It wasn’t a bad book but it wasn’t my favorite either. It wasn’t the writing, it was my dislike of characters. The book is part of the thriller trend with a female protagonist that I’ve been seeing pop up more recently.
What were some of your favorite books of the summer? Any big winners? Any big losers?
In The Farm, Joanne Ramos examines motherhood in this dystopian novel set in present day.
Hidden away in the Catskills, there is a luxury retreat for pregnant women. At Golden Oaks, you are given everything you could need to have a happy and healthy pregnancy: fitness classes, chef prepared organic meals, luxury clothing, and world class doctors checking in on their health and that of their unborn babies.
But you’re not carrying your child. You’re a “Host”, carrying a baby for a “Client” who can’t (or chooses not to) have a baby themselves. At the end of your pregnancy with the delivery of a healthy baby, you receive a large payment.
The novel follows Reagan and Jane, two hosts, each hand picked to be a host but both motivated by vastly different circumstances.
The Farm is a thought provoking examination of motherhood. Is it okay to pay someone to carry your child if you can? Is it more acceptable if you are unable to conceive? Does the surrogate have a say in whether or not a pregnancy is terminated? Is it exploitative to have immigrant women act as surrogates? Is it predatory to pay them a bonus for delivering a healthy child?
The world of The Farm isn’t too far in the future. Paid surrogacy is a controversial topic that is currently being debated in states across the nation. While a work of fiction, it explores the exploitative side that paid surrogacy can create.
Overall, a great book that should be read by all. If you liked A Handmaid’s Tale, you’ll enjoy Joanne Ramos novel The Farm.
Farnoosh Torabi is easily one of my favorite podcasters. She is funny and knowledgeable. Her podcast, So Money, airs three times a week. With a high frequency show, she brings on a lot of authors to discuss their new books.
One of her recent guests was David Bach. Bach is a well know financial writer. During his interview, he said that this story has been inside him for 12 years. He knew it had to be a young women and he knew the parable he wanted to tell to the world. He said it would be short and something people can read in an hour. He credited Paulo Coelho with telling him he had to write this book. I added The Latte Factor to my library request list. If Coelho told him to write it, it must be good.
The story follows Zoey Daniels for one week as she decides whether or not she would like to take a new job. She meets a barista who provides her the keys to financial freedom. One of which is getting rid of her daily “double shot latte and muffin” habit. She enacts the advice of the barista and her boss. She ends up staying at her job and being happy. As Bach promised, you can read this story in about an hour.
Sallie Krawcheck had a great reaction to the story. She said “Just buy the f***** latte.”
The Latte Factor has some good points about compound interest and making cuts to things however, I have some of the same issues Sallie does. Why is it a female lead in the story? Bach is a man. Men have plenty of habits that are daily and costly. The latte is a female associated drink. Its an older man giving her the advice. It comes across as mansplaining. Beyond that, the bigger issue with women and earning is that they are paid less than men across the board. We pay more for the same items (the pink tax) as men. There is no paid leave for many women. All of these items have an impact on our financial situation that has nothing to do with the choices we make on how to spend our money.
David Bach wrote a cute story about what can happen if you decide to make some changes to your life. But that’s exactly what it is, a fictional story. Bach wanted to write a parable to teach the millennials when in reality he wrote a condescending short story. The charts he puts in the back are interesting.
Who has read The Latte Factor ? What were your thoughts about the book?
If you want to read Sallie Krawcheck’s response to The Latte Factor you can read it here.